I’m traveling to northern Minnesota this weekend to officiate a wedding
for a college friend and his fiancé.
Confession 1: As a pastor I haven’t always loved doing weddings.
Confession 2: If you did a blind survey of pastors asking if they prefer doing weddings or funerals, I’d bet most pastors would prefer doing funerals.
My attitude about weddings has changed greatly in the past few years for two interconnected reasons:
I’ve long believed that everyone deserves a good funeral, which has led me to help with dozens of funeral for strangers when a funeral home reaches out for help. Then, it dawned on me: why shouldn’t every marriage deserve a good beginning?
Friend weddings are…different. It’s a tricky road to be pastor and friend and I haven’t always negotiated it well. Now that officiated the weddings for a few friends, I can see how important a good beginning is for a new marriage. Marriage is hard enough as it is, shouldn’t we at least start well?